You can misjudge yourself? Never mind! With these tricks, you can be nicer to people you do not like – without pretending!
Whatever: Some people just do not like you! And usually that’s not bad at all. However, it gets problematic if we deal with the unsympathetic and have to deal with it – eg. For example, because we spend 40 hours a week with him in the same office, our sister has decided to marry him, he sells us bread every morning, or our friend suddenly brings him to each of our appointments …
Exactly for such cases, we have put together a few tricks that help you to avoid unsightly scenes.
5 tricks on how to be nice to people you do not like
1. Grasp your own nose
You may not like to hear that now, but when we get angry at people, it almost always says something about ourselves - and the same goes for people we do not like. Are you jealous that the guy spends more time with your BFF than you? Would you secretly like to be sometimes as unfriendly as the bad-tempered bread seller? Think about it - ideally you can even learn something from the Unsympathen.
2. Keep cool head
Soberly, does this human being whom you do not like deserve your energy and emotions? Probably (in your opinion) not! Try to keep your feelings and relationships with this person out of the way and look pragmatic: she's in your life and it's up to you to make the most of it.
3. Do something nice together
Sure, you probably do not feel like spending your lunch break with the Ätz-colleague or going to the zoo with your arrogant brother-in-law - but I suppose that could be milder. When you make positive experiences with your unsympathetic, you are more likely to associate joy and pleasurable emotions with him, which can weaken or even reverse your negative attitude. Maybe so on occasion, the bread seller on a piece of cake invite ...?
4. Change perspective
Yes, yes, you should always be the one who strives and empathizes. On the other hand, it is also about you, you are interested in getting along with the other. So try to put yourself in the other person. Is her arrogant behavior really so self-righteous? Or is there perhaps more uncertainty behind it? Even if you still do not like the Unsympathen afterwards: A little emotional jogging is good for your emotional intelligence!
If nothing helps, only one thing will help: Humor! Why see everything so closely and always take life so hard? Why annoy you when you can laugh too? Or do you have no sense of the irony of fate ...? 😉