You do not believe that you can learn to trust? So so! Then you can obviously use some reliable tips …
Why should we learn to trust?
One thing is clear: You do not have to trust (or should!) All people alike! For example, if someone calls you and congratulates you on winning $ 10,000, you should be skeptical of this person (and never give your IBAN …). It is true that a basic trust in others is desirable and, in many cases, justified . But with casual contacts and people you do not know, there’s nothing wrong with being cautious and suspicious.
However, this does not apply to longer-term interpersonal relationships.
At work, in partnership or in friendships – if you can not trust in such connections, you have a real problem. Trust is the prerequisite for intact, happy and functioning relationships . We have to trust our colleagues because we can not do everything on our own, our partner, to share our lives with him and our friends, so that they deserve this name. We can not always control everything (in fact, very little …), and certainly not the behavior of our fellow human beings. Therefore, if we give them a vital role in our lives, we must also put our trust in people .
Can one learn to trust at all?
Granted, trusting other people is not always easy. Alone, because it takes a lot of self-confidence to rely on others. If we are still disappointed in our past or in the early childhood development negatively affected, it can be really difficult to put off fear and distrust again. But do not worry: it works! After all, the personality is changeable, every person can change if he wants – and therefore with a little practice, mindfulness and the right tips, of course, learn to trust.
Learning to trust: the best tips
1. Understand your own mistrust
To trust problems? Then you should first admit that to yourself and try to clarify where they come from.
- Have you ever trusted someone who abused your trust?
- Have you been disappointed many times?
- What do you think can happen in the worst case if you trust someone?
If you know who or what has raised your fear of trust and what you want to protect your mistrust, you can respond much more purposefully. Because even if you (and others) suffer or suffer from your behavior: you follow your feelings and every feeling fulfills a function. To know you, to understand your feelings is important to you. B. to consider a replacement strategy.
2. Consciously trust
Learning by trust is like changing habits : the best chances of success you have, if you think as carefully as possible, what it should look like, if you trust.
- To whom do you want to build trust?
- What does trust mean to you?
- How should your trust in other people express themselves?
- What will be better if you can trust?
Best of all, consider positive experiences: When did you trust someone and did you do well? Making you aware that it can work with confidence may sound trivial – but it is one of the most confidence-building measures ever. 😘
3. Trust yourself
No matter what you are the concrete triggers for your difficulties in confidence: Self-confidence is and remains the number one prerequisite to trust others – just as self-love is the prerequisite to love others. So, to learn a very important to-do in confidence is to become more confident and reduce self-doubt (you can find tips on that in our related article).
Or do not you think that a lack of self-confidence prevents you from trusting? Okay, maybe not. But why do you think you can not handle it when others disappoint you? Walls to build oneself does not exactly mean that much self-assurance …
4. Be honest
Of course, first and foremost, you want to be able to count on others to be honest with you. But one of the best ways to achieve that is (as so often 🙄) to take the first step and be open and honest with others. You know how it sounds in the forest …
5. Have patience
Sorry, we still have a “bad” message for you, but learning to trust takes time! No personality change happens overnight and we can not kill a counter. Most of all, our experiences shape and impress us, so they are the ones who can help us most in developing our character. Important, so that they shape us as we wish: consciously deal with them and draw the right conclusions !
What does that mean in terms of trust? For example, a person who has repeatedly disappointed you, consistently withdrawing your trust – but not on suspicion to all other people. Or to perceive who you can rely on and how good that feels. Or to recognize that life goes on even when your heart is broken – and that you are strong enough to cope with disappointment …
You want tips on how to build trust in a partnership? We’ll tell you how to fight jealousy . Above all else, if you want to gain self-confidence and confidence in life, you will learn how to overcome fears .
Or would you like to share your experiences with others about their experiences of disappointment and trust? Then have a look at our community !