What to do if the man sleeps while caring for the baby together night after night? A mother was fed up with it – and wrote an honest poem to her husband …
The Danish Caroline Olling Andersen has fathered a baby with her husband. It is now two months old – and does at night what infants do at night: whining, crying, starving.
While Caroline is awakened by every baby’s sigh, breastfeeding and caring, her husband sleeps next to her calmly. Since then, Caroline’s motto has been “I do not want to sleep like a baby.” I do not want to sleep like a baby, I want to sleep like my husband. “
The blogger ( TheMommyPoet ), who lives in Dubai with her small family, has written a poem to her daughter. At four o’clock in the morning on a sleepless night. The topic in it? The deep sleep of the dad.
The full-length poem:
My latest 4 on poem titled, “Daddy’s Asleep:”
I love your daddy, I really do,
After all, without daddy, I would not have you.
But from midnight till sunrise, it’s just you and I.
And every hour passes, I’m not gonna lie:
Mommy’s love slowly fades, becomes angry and weak,
Because no matter what, your dad is f * cking asleep!
It all starts out lovely. We kiss each other goodnight.
We look lovingly down at you dear, look for a beautiful sight.
An hour later, mommy wakes with a start.
You’re twisting and turning, you’re starting to fart.
You’re gesturing for food. Mommy is there
with a bottle or breast
Daddy is snoring away, the way he knows best.
Mommy burps you, and holds you and rocks you with care.
You spew fouling yogurt on mommy’s freshly washed hair.
As mommy changes her shirt, and pug vomit off the floor.
Your daddy farts, rolls over, and continues to snore.
Mommy’s maternal alarm goes off, it’s not even three!
You’re stirring again, you’re hungry and staring at me!
“I think she is hungry” your daddy offers, pulls duvet over his head,
Mommy sends him a death stare and rolls out of bed.
Mommy comes back, tired and drained and what is this I see?
Your daddy has taken over my side, does not give af * ck about me!
Mommy kicks him and pushes him angrily away.
“What’s up love?” He moans in a lovingly way.
Your daddy has no clue he is under attack.
He wraps his arms around me and kisses my back.
And just as my love for daddy is back on the rise,
You start to coo in your crib and open your eyes.
And daddy gently nudges me to attend to your need.
I give him the finger as I prepare for a feed.
But as the sun starts rising, the slate is wiped clear.
I’m back to full love for your daddy and for you my dear.
I forget that daddy sleeps while you cry and you poo.
It’s back to kissing and hugging and doting on you.
Soon you’ll grow up and be daddy’s little girl.
You’ll not remember me cleaning up and vomit hurl.
Whilst you sit on his lap and you sing a song,
You’ll love him and think daddy could not do anything wrong.
But my sweet love, here is a poem for you to keep,
So you know that all those long nights, dad what f * cking asleep.
This poem has been leaked over 22,000 times, shared over 16,000 times and commented on around 17,000 times. Caroline met the nerve of thousands of newly minted mothers worldwide.
Her husband protects her from critics: “My husband and I made a deal during pregnancy: I take on the night shift because I’m blessed with a long parental leave, so my husband can sleep in for 10-12 hours Working day as a teacher.
When Caroline read the poem to her husband in the morning, he did not find it funny. “Maybe because he was just reassuring our daughter,” explains Caroline. Later that day, when the baby slept and the parents were eating, he read the poem again and found it brilliant.
Incidentally, Caroline’s parents have been married for almost 30 years. “They taught me that marriage is a priority – even before the children, and my mother always said: Happy parents have happy children,” says the Copenhagen native. She draws a comparison to the emergency instructions in airplanes: It is also written there, one should first kill oneself a safety vest, before one helps his child.
Caroline and her husband make sure that they regularly go out in pairs, spend time each day, and hug and kiss daily. If Caroline’s mother is right, the baby will grow up very happy …