A study by the pollster forsa and the Pampers brand reveals what it feels like to be a parent in 2019. The result: doubt, pressure and unconditional love. An overview.
A representative study has dealt with the topic of parenting. The aim was to find out what parents feel about as soon as the child is born.
In cooperation with the company Procter & Gamble (among others Pampers) the opinion research institute forsa has interviewed 1,000 parents, who have children between zero and four years. The survey was conducted between January 3 and 11, 2019.
How do you deal with social expectations? Do you listen to her gut feeling when it comes to her child? How does it feel to be parents? The results at a glance:
- 69 percent of parents surveyed say that they sometimes feel overwhelmed in their roles and do not always live up to the demands of society.
- 75 percent of the mothers doubt themselves ; among the fathers it is 63 percent.
- Seventy percent of respondents say that the expectations of today’s parents are higher than those of previous generations.
- Thirty-one percent of respondents feel a strong sense of expectation through social control and “long-term observation” of society.
- For 27 percent of respondents it is the reconciliation of family and work that puts them under pressure.
- 23 percent of respondents feel pressured by the early support of children .
- 28 percent of parents feel the expectations of the media pressure building; 17 percent of the respondents make social media, blogs and forums to create.
- 23 percent of respondents feel pressured by friends and acquaintances .
- Thirteen percent of respondents feel pressured by the feeling that they need to have “perfect” children nowadays .
Although it is a pity that a whopping 75 percent of mothers doubt themselves: it is reassuring that you are not alone with your concerns and worries. And does not it mean that shared suffering is half suffering? Mothers, talk about your doubts! You can build each other and take your worries away.
What we should definitely take from these survey results is that we should not be pressured by the expectations of others. Of course one can inform oneself with friends, acquaintances, in media, if one has questions around the parents existence. But you should not let any information drive you crazy or take them too much to heart.
What are parents worried about most?
- 71 percent of the respondents are unsure whether they do everything right in the area of parenting .
- 69 percent are afraid that their partnership will be neglected .
- 58 percent of the respondents fear that they will miss out on their own .
- 57 percent fear that their child will be short-lived.
- 53 percent of respondents wonder how other families manage to get everything under one roof .
What are the best aspects of being a parent?
- 86 percent of the interviewed parents count cuddling with the child to the most beautiful moments of the day.
- For 83 percent of respondents, the smile of their child is enough to forget the worries.
- Likewise, 83 percent say they feel lucky when their child approaches them with a smile .
- 78 percent of parents are happy when their child learns something new .
- 53 percent of the respondents are happy if they can calm their child by their presence alone .
- 48 percent of parents love to forget time when playing together .
- 41 percent enjoy watching their child play with others .
Despite worries, fears, fears and misgivings, the happiness of being a parent still outweighs it. There is nothing better than to look at the little creature and to feel the deep love for it that only a mother (respectively father) can feel …