Shortly before her death: dying people tell what they loved most in their lives

(*) for the photo project “Right, before I die” by Andrew George, what they loved most in their lives – and what decisions they regret.

The most beautiful moments of my life, together with my grandmother, when we sat together, had coffee and talked. That was nice and I miss that. And then of course the births of my kids when you finally see their face and know that's my boy, this is my kid … If I could go back today, I'd try life more to enjoy and better distinguish between the things that can wait and those who can not wait. I was too strict, that's what I'm learning now.

It is up to ourselves to be happy, not to others. Just do the best you can. I can not imagine another sense of our life.

The only thing I regret is who I married. We did not match. I just got married to be out of it. I would not do that again.

Do not worry too much, because to worry is just stressing and does not help.

What I've experienced is that many friends are disappearing when you are as ill as me. At first they say they'll get through this with you. But then you do not hear anything from them anymore. Most people are afraid, as if they could be infected. If you're a true friend, you're there – even if someone gets sick.

My mother and children will remember me as someone who cares deeply for others. I do that because I think we should not hold anything back. We do not know how long we will be here. If you love someone, tell him.

The hardest thing about my life was how my grandmother and my family dealt with me. They never made me happy, never showed me love or affection. I was like a thing that just came and went for her. But I forgave them. I have forgiven all who have ever treated me wrong …

Life is the waiting room for death. We just go through, because from the moment we are born, it is clear that one day we will die, even if we do not know where, when, or how. I feel calm, in peace, I know that's the time.

Every night I say to God, 'You know what you're doing'. I'm not afraid of death. I have many happy years behind me.

The world is what we humans make of it. They can do something good or not out of their lives. It seems to me that there are a lot of people who belong to the second group.

One of the happiest days of my life was the day I and my wife married Sally. We were married 35 for years. I knew from the first moment that she was the one for me, but that was not the case with her. It took me a year to convince her. I kept telling her how much she means to me and that I will always be there for her and one day she finally said 'yes'. That was one of the best days of my life. When the pastor asked me if I wanted to marry her, I called 'YES, I WANT'. I did not mean to scream that out, but I really meant it that way. We were a heart and a soul for so many years.

I think life is very nice. People who grow up in love give love back. You have to give love to get love. You have to be good without expecting anything. It must come out of you.

Try to lovingly treat everyone you meet. Whatever they do, give them a sense of acceptance. That's love. Take responsibility for your actions and words. If you hurt someone, ask him or her for forgiveness. It is so important not to refer to others for their own mistakes.

At the funeral of my father, everyone kept saying what a wonderful man he was and how much he has always built all the others. I hope I could do the same to others as well.

I was able to experience two beautiful love stories, that was the best. What can a man want more? It was a wonderful trip.

I wish to help more people than I have done so far. I love people. I think the only reason I'm on this earth is so that I can help others as much as possible. For the last three years, I have been cooking for children without a home who are sick in bed. Now I work with disabled children. I think they are the only ones who do not have many chances in life. Now that I'm so sick, I understand her better than before. Now it is my life goal to help them. I believe Heaven is what you do on earth. When you do good, you are happy.

One of my favorite memories is of a trip with my fourth husband just before we got married. We made a cruise through Alaska and stopped whenever one of us wanted to stop. It was a peaceful, happy time. When you are married, you need humor and understanding of what your partner needs. I've always believed that things would get better. If we have neither hope nor faith for the future, we have nothing.

Life is definitely not infinite. You never know what's coming next and you have to take risks. I barely risked anything before I was finished

What will we think about when one day our lives come to an end? For which encounters will we be thankful? Which decisions will we regret?

The Californian photographer Andrew George has been answering these questions for over two years 20 terminally ill men and women talked in a hospice. In very personal conversations and letters they told him about their lives. The result is the photo series “ Right, before I the “, touching portraits that remind us of what is really important in life – and that we do not spend endless time on this earth to have. Here we translate for you some excerpts from these conversations.

Andrew himself says to his pictures: “ These portraits convey my admiration for Living with such brutal honesty is something I believe we can all inspire and use to hopefully enrich our own lives, most of these wonderful people have passed away, but I hope you will join them now Remember her and appreciate her perspective and wisdom. “

Exhibition in Germany

Autumn 35 will see the pictures of the series “ Right, before I die ” in an exhibition in Germany his. From 30. October until (*) November 2019 they are shown in the Marktkirche in Lage. There is also a book with the pictures of the series, in which all conversations and letters can be found.

Visitors to the exhibition can leave comments on Andrew George's website. Many people are very touched by the picture series. One visitor writes, “I felt that your exhibition was not just about death, but life in its entirety, in a quiet way, without forcing tears, thank you for giving me the time to open up Looking back at my days and wisdom to live on. ”

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