Should children be paid to help in the household? In this question, the ghosts differ. We have obtained two votes, both of which are probably valid. What’s your opinion?
Education is an excellent argument, especially when it comes to controversial issues that do not have scientifically proven results.
One of them is the housework. Should you pay your children to help with household chores? Or should you rather get them to help unpaid? One topic, two opinions:
There are such universal truths that do not disappear because we may not like them. Climate change is dangerous. Vaccination saves lives. The household is a task for all who live in it.
Especially the latter is in almost every family a popular conflict perpetual burner. My self-defense strategy: Explain this principle to children as soon as they can talk – then comes later not even the expectation that the topic of household would be completely a hobby of mom or dad (or, worse, of WG roommates, if the Info until the age of majority has not arrived). Pack away toys, tidy up rooms, mop up overturned milk: These are a matter of course, for which there is of course no special payment (children see that experience shows differently).
But there are also more demanding jobs in the household that children can eventually take over. And for that I find a pocket money increase totally okay. Of course, no 3-year-old child has to do the shopping for 50 cents more and then pick up the car from the workshop. But if a child is old enough to take care of a task on a permanent basis (eg, take out the trash when it’s full, or clean a litter box), I think it’s okay that the new commitment also means a little money Bonus gives. As a voluntary offer that does not have to be accepted (the previous pocket money remains “unconditional basic income”).
It’s not about conveying the thrill of our performance society and turning children into salary negotiation geniuses as quickly as possible. This is simply the value of housework to be felt – both in the fact that such a duration obligation often annoying quite a lot (because no one feels like it), but on the other hand also has a real value – like a “real” job. When children see themselves as part of a household in this way, ideally, even as adults, they do not take the “unseen” household frenzy as a matter of course for other people to do. Because honestly, such adults are not uncommon – and that’s an ugly truth we can change.
Why should I pay my child for something that does not even pay me? Washing and hanging clothes, rinsing, vacuuming & Co. are not just part of the housekeeping, but also a community living together. To help one another and to divide the upcoming housework among each other, in order to contribute to the fact that all family members feel well in their own four walls, belongs – in spite of effort – not in the world of the payment, but in the value mediation.
If you pay your child for the service provided, it will only learn to always expect something in return – and may never understand that you can also help “for free”; not for the money, but for the sake of helping .
The housework can be an excellent opportunity to teach the child teamwork : we all tackle, no one is left alone with unpleasant tasks. At the same time, it has been proven many times that children naturally want to help voluntarily. People are pack animals that want to socialize and like to live with others. Children already want to feel “useful” – and where could they live that better than doing housework?
Of course, this is about a division of the same: The little brother puts out the napkins, the big sister covers the table, Mama prepares the food and then daddy clears the table – so z. For example, everyone contributes something to the meal together. This division principle can be extended to all conceivable housework – and everyone feels a useful part of the small community.
Of course, this is not about condemning a three year old to dig up the garden. But it’s about an age-appropriate distribution of tasks where the children grow and feel they are doing something.
Exceptions, of course, confirm the rule: If the teenager asks for money for a new video game, you can beat for a return and offer him a deal (“If you clean up the garage, you get the money for it”). But as a rule – and especially for pre-primary and primary school children – the money question should not be mixed with the budget question.
Oh yes: incidentally, the child learns to clean up “without compensation” – which will be a big support for him at the latest when he moves out of the hotel and has to keep his own room clean …