In everyday life, we run the risk of losing the feeling for ourselves. With our tips, you will find your inner balance again.
Inner balance: nutrition
“A man is what he eats,” said the German philosopher Ludwig Feuerbach. In fact, our condition is strongly related to nutrition. To check yourself and perhaps change the diet, it helps to keep the eating and drinking habits in a diary for at least a week.
These questions can guide you: How do I feel after eating? Heavy and tired or light and energetic? Do I even remember what I ate yesterday? And the day before yesterday? How much time do I have while eating? Do I eat without enjoying it? Do I quickly shut down the meal? Can I fall asleep after dinner? And when do I have dinner?
Food affects people very differently. If you have a solid digestive system, you can also take rich dishes without feeling heavy and tired. On the other hand, if it does not work so well, the same food would make you want to take a nap. The individual correct eating behavior thus depends on the disposition of the individual. Keeping a journal helps you to become aware of your own eating habits and the needs of specific foods.
Tip: If you want to detox in the morning, you should drink a glass (ideally half a liter) of warm water with lemon and honey: Bring the water briefly boil, squeeze half a lemon and add some honey. This mixture is good for stimulating the metabolism, promoting the mobility of the intestines and getting the whole system going.
Inner balance: exercise and sport
How do I know that I am moving too little? Safe signals are: The body feels stiff and sluggish, the joints are immobile, may hurt the back. Tensions are also a sign of too little physical workload.
Exercise and sports are enormously important for the inner balance. However, that does not mean that you should overstrain yourself. Who is exhausted after the sport, no longer feels and overhears the inner voice. The fun should therefore always be in the foreground. Which type of movement is the right one can only be found out by oneself. The only criterion: to feel well physically and mentally afterward.
Very good to perceive all regions of the body is yoga. The different exercises, so-called asanas, gently promote mobility and elasticity, while at the same time containing moments of rest to track the body’s sensation.
Tip: often sport alone! So you can find out the best in which sport you feel particularly well, which forms of exercise are good and harmonize with your own body.
Inner balance: feelings
The deepest feeling that connects us to ourselves and others is love. The love I feel for others builds on the esteem for myself. If you like yourself, you can be merciful if you make a mistake. I also transfer the respect that I have for myself to others and my environment.
If a person treats himself badly because he does not like himself, how can he treat his fellow man well?
Another important aspect: some people do not realize that they are falling into a victim position. They see the world through an “It happens to me, and the others are guilty of it” goggles. He who cultivates this inner attitude gives up the power over his life. It is important to take responsibility for yourself and to make it clear again and again: I am responsible for my life circumstances. And if I feel bad, it’s up to me to find a way out.
Negative feelings are part of life. One should not fight against them, even if they are unpleasant. Better: they accept when they arise – and let pass inwardly like dark clouds in the sky. It would be wrong to pay much attention to them. Because basically there is a simple principle: what we take important, we strengthen. What we withdraw from our attention, we weaken. The secret of how to strengthen positive, beautiful, nourishing feelings is to give them extra space in life.
Hint: It is my responsibility how I think and talks about others. When I express negative things, I strengthen the negativity in my emotional world. On the other hand, if I focus on the positive sides of others, I strengthen the goodness in myself and give others gratifying feedback.
Inner balance: communication
For humans as social beings, interpersonal contacts are vital. There is one basic rule: Presence. Communication starts with me. I have to check in contact with others. There may be people who are not good for me. Because they are pessimistic or suck me. If so, I have to be courageous and distance myself.
Of course, you can not choose some contacts – for example at work. But all in all, it’s about being a little pickier – especially in areas where you have the opportunity. Anyone who has to make do with unpleasant colleagues in their professional life can find a balance in the private sphere and take special care for being with loved family members or friends. With their help, you get back the energy that you might lose in the job.
Presence is also crucial in dealing with other people. It is the basis for empathy, compassion, understanding. I have to be willing to really get involved with another person and be honest with him when I spend time with him. Pay attention to how few people can really listen! They are so concerned with themselves and their problems that they do not have an open ear for their counterparts.
To check how one behaves towards others, the diary can help again: How present I am in dealing with others? Which people do I feel comfortable with? Do I remember what my girlfriend told me last night? Here you could ask me directly: Do I give you the feeling of being with you when I talk to you? Do you have the impression that I am interested in what you tell me? By being vigilant yourself, you are training your presence.
Make it clear: The closest you are always to the people in whose presence you are close to yourself.
Tip: Best to say in advance if you bring little time to a meeting – but then focus exclusively on the conversation partner. So one avoids insults and misunderstandings and does not torture himself with a bad conscience.
Inner balance: body language
The posture is an expression of our inner state. A person who is tense will also take a tense posture. A person who is depressed will put his body in a depressed position. A person who is optimistic and vital will walk straight and open through life. “It’s the mind that builds the body,” Schiller says.
Muscle tone determines how we move, forcing us into the position that our mental attitude dictates: upright when we have succeeded; tense with stress and effort; pressed if we do not know how to proceed. Observe yourself and correct – if necessary – your body.
Tip: How to walk upright is best felt barefoot in the sand. Or wear shoes that simulate barefoot walking; MBT shoes, for example, in which the ankles are stabilized and the spine is relieved.
Inner balance: sleeping
The most important basis for a vital attitude to life is to be rested. In the last 20 years, the average sleep duration of the Germans has decreased by one hour.
However, those who do not sleep enough will soon find that all aspects of life suffer from it: job, partnership, relationships, enjoyment – you’re just tired.
In the state of exhaustion, you no longer feel, you are neither sensitive to yourself nor to others. Again, a diary can help to make you aware of whether you are sleeping enough and what you should change to be more rested.
Basically, if you lie down in bed and then fall asleep within a few minutes, it’s a sign of inner balance – especially if you go to sleep. Of course, there can always be exceptions, but most nights should be like this. This is a sign of inner balance.
Those who do not sleep well can help answer the following questions: How do I feel during the day? Can I concentrate on my work? Do I feel fresh and clear in my head? Or something dull? Am I responsive to the people around me? Or do I not perceive certain things at all? Do I wake up frequently at night? Sleep says a lot about our mental state. If you have difficulty sleeping, you are under pressure.
Tip: The first step to changing the state of exhaustion: Sleep for a week until you wake up by yourself and feel fresh. For this, you should go to bed as early as possible during this time. During the first three days, you will probably feel even more tired than before. From the third day onwards, the feeling of being rested finally sets in.
Inner balance: the life track
“There’s a place you have to fill that no one else can fill, and there’s something for you to do that no one else can do,” Plato said. The sentence is transferable to our body and mind. When every cell in an organism fulfills its task – that is, the small intestine cell does the digestive work, the heart cell contracts regularly and then it goes limp, the kidney cell detoxifies the body – the whole thing always benefits. And when the whole thing is healthy, it’s good for all the parts that make up the whole thing.
The secret of nature is that this whole is contained in each of its parts. At the core of each cell rests the entire same genetic material – the identical DNA, so the entire organism. When each cell, in its uniqueness, maintains a living connection to the whole, it fulfills its specific, individual task for the benefit of the whole organism.
This principle also applies to the person who knows his destiny. He serves the common good because he moves in his intended life path. Having found the individual life track is the highest form of self-listening ability. One finds oneself only by the inner attention. Such a person remains faithful, does not build his life on the opinion of others, does not harm himself and others, but respects, values and loves life as the most precious treasure.