Why you should teach your child the words penis, vagina and vulva!

How do you teach your child to name genitals? Experts advise: Yes not trivial! Why you should call the body parts by the real name!

Sex parts are a sensitive topic – at least if you have to teach them to your own child. Often, when naming the genital area of ​​boys and girls, parents use vague terms such as:

  • Pimmelmann, Pillemann, Pipimann, Zipfel, Lümmel, Brush, Dödel, Schniedel (wutz), Piephahn, Noodle, Puller, Willi …
  • Schlitzli, Mumu, Schnecki, Kitten, Strullerlisel, Lulu …

Why do adults have such a hard time naming things? Finally, for other parts of the body , we do not invent any extra terms, or have we ever heard someone say “food bones” instead of “mouths”?

False inhibitions of the parents

The reason for the avoidable reduction of genitals is in the association that we adults associate with them. For many, the penis, vagina, vulva , testicles, vagina, anus and scrotum are intuitively in the field of enlightenment, ie in the early teens. For us, these terms are associated with sexual maturity, rather than the simple anatomy of a human being.

The cause of the problem with children’s language is thus often the false inhibition of the parents (possibly because they were also kept away from “real” terms as children). But that is just the subject of intimate zone out of place.

Lowering leads to devaluation of body parts

More and more experts criticize the children’s language in the naming of the penis , vagina and Co. If one dean these body parts, it can be equivalent to a name devaluation. The signal that arrives at the child: This part of your body is a taboo.

Another disadvantage of using “nicknames” for genitals: Sooner or later Elern must teach their children anyway that with the “Pipimann” actually meant a penis and meant by “Schnecki” the vagina. So why not use the right term from the beginning?

3 Benefits of naming genitals by name

“If we avoid using certain expressions, we get the feeling of shame, something that needs to be hidden or avoided,” says sex educator Lydia M. Bowers to the Huffpost . There are (at least) three other benefits to calling things by their name:

  1. Knowing the right words helps kids talk about those body parts. That can already play an important role in the topic of health .
  2. The right terms help educate children about hygiene .
  3. Knowing only nicknames can make it difficult for children to share with others. It could lead to serious misunderstandings. Children should also know, in the sense of sexual security , what their intimate area is called, so that it can describe what has happened, for example after a harassment.

Here comes the little Who’s Who of the genital area:

  • Vagina = vagina = sex organ of woman
  • Vulva = totality of the female sexual organs (Venushügel, Labia and clitoris, Scheidenvorhof)
  • Penis = link = sexual organ of the man
  • Testicles = testicle = male sexual organ
  • Scrotum = scrotum = skin and muscle sac containing testes, epididymis, beginning of the vas deferens and end of the spermatic cord
  • Anus = anus = exit opening of the intestinal canal

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