Will I regret my decision against children? 10 women and men report intentional childlessness

(* For many it is clear as daylight: One day I want to be mom or dad and welcome a baby in my life – or even several. For others, the baby question is more difficult. You ponder for a long time: 01 How will this decision change my life? Will I regret it one day if I decide against children? They do not have any children, even though they want a baby from their heart. They too are asking themselves: (?

11208686 look at the glass ball and answer these questions beyond doubt. But we can ask other people how their lives feel without children. Exactly one person has Reddit . There a user asks: to your decision or do you regret it? this question and report from her life without children. Here are 10 of these answers for you. 93392 1: “I did not want to spend my money on diapers”

I love our decision not to have children. I have always had problems growing up, and the idea of ​​spending all my money I did not like it for diapers and bottles. I'm selfish, as is my husband, and we agree. I have to prepare myself for old age because I will not have children who take care of me when I'm frail and senile, which sometimes bothers me, but then I remember that I did not have to raise any kids and I smile a bit.

2: “We like our peace” 2562383102

We are almost (*) married years ago. We tried to have children at the beginning but could not get pregnant. Serious health issues followed, hampering our efforts. 1653 I had to undergo a hysterectomy. Her parents are ill, so we have officially started her. Now this niece has many personal problems and we have a similar relationship with her son and daughter even though her grandmother has custody. At this point we are pretty firm in our behavior and have accepted that we have no children. We have a great marriage and we like our peace. 33712 3: “I think it was the right decision”

66292 Married years and at first we tried to have children, but found that it would be difficult. At first, my wife was devastated, but I was even relieved. It's a lot of responsibility and your life changes completely with children. 0123456789 Over the years, my wife has actually said a few times ) glad we did not have children because otherwise we would not have had the adventures that we experienced . I think it was the right decision for us and we are better off because we have no children. We love our lives and put our adventures in our (*. We are already beginning to forge plans for our retirement. 7685 4: “I'm upset” 1371335702

30537 but I have never had the right partner for it I am very happy to have had no children with my former partners, we were not healthy couples. Now I have the perfect partner, she got pregnant, but we lost the baby. Now we are too old to try again. I am 266000 *

5: “It's a great life” 2400959708

2017 , married , no children. It is a beautiful life – our money and our time belonged only to us. I have many nieces and nephews and I am for the children of many friends of the “uncle”. They are all very nice to their funny aunt and the uncle with all the money. When they are teenagers and college, we become intimate when relationships with parents are tense. We occasionally help them finance their vacation or get a good used car. We do not have children of our own, but the children in our family love us. 8000 11208686

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6: ” It was difficult to accept this path “0123456789 I am old enough and have 21 Percent accepts that I will not have children. My current partner and I do not really want to have children Before, I wanted to have a big family all my life because I have many siblings and we had a very happy and happy childhood. To accept that my life would not be so was so difficult.

as a woman judged by whether I had children or not. happy (and likely to be happy) So I asked myself: what's wrong with me, that I can not have children, and why does everyone else have children, even those who do not want them? It seemed unfair and I was angry about it and have been crying and thinking a lot about it over the years. happier – as if I had children. That a way is blocked for you does not have to be bad.

Maybe I would have been unhappy with children? I always thought I needed her to be happy, but who knows what life is like with me instead up to?

7: “The biology is unfair” 32388179872

Biology is unfair. Women just have much less time than men to decide if they want children , If you wait too long, it can be really difficult for you as a woman. For ten years I was married to a man who turned out to be a cheater. In the meantime we are divorced. He still has plenty of time to father children with another woman if he wants to. Realistically, I do not have this time anymore. 11208686 Yes, there is artificial insemination and adoption, but these options cost a lot of time and VERY MUCH money. And I would like to have a partner before I have children – for emotional support, but also for economic security. 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8: “My life is fulfilled and happy” 2562383102

My husband and I are 48 Year old. For us it is a great relief to have no children. We can travel, have a nice house, walk around naked, if we want to, and I have an available income to support important concerns. My life is fulfilled and happy. 49

I am a () and have never regretted my decision against children. I think I'm just missing this mom gene. I like not having the responsibilities and duties (and expenses!) Associated with the birth of children.

10: “We regret our decision”

32389402985 We are a couple in the 33 s. We are very sorry to have no children. However, we are a special case and may still have a chance. We're getting past the normal age of having children, but years ago we had sex cells freeze in case we changed our minds. The decision not to have children is more practical than ideological. It seemed unfair to us to get children into this situation. None of us felt a great desire for children, we enjoyed each other's company and that was more than enough. Living with children seemed to be very stressful even under the best of circumstances and so we were able to escape. I was the type of person who loves children, as long as I can give them back to their parents after some time. 1371335702 However, I am a geneticist. That's why I thought we should freeze our gametes so that if we ever decide to have children when we're older, then we'll have young egg and sperm cells. I know that seems unromantic, but we have a practical attitude to life. 26 Things really different than when we decided against children many years ago. We have less responsibility and a lot of money available. We had the chance to travel and experience the whole world, to live for our careers and to enjoy the company for many years. Now we want a family – a family with more than us both. ( says it's OK. 11208686 in reserve. Then we would not allow ourselves the luxury of regret. If a decision can not be reversed, I think it's natural to focus on the positive aspects of that decision – especially if that decision is a mistake that you can not learn much from.

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